Here’s some advice if you decide to meet up with someone you don’t know well:
* Make sure someone knows where you are going, and who you’re meeting.
* You could arrange for someone to call or text you during the time you are out to make sure you are okay.
* Meeting in a busy, public place during daylight hours is best.
* Do not go somewhere you could be put at risk.
* Until you are sure the person is genuine, don’t give them your home address or phone number.
* If you get an bad feeling about the person, don’t ignore it. Just make an excuse and leave.
* Always make sure you have a way of getting home safely, and that you have money for a taxi if you need it.
* Tell someone where you are going. This could be a friend or family member and tell them about the person you are arranging to meet.
Remember, you are meeting to have fun. Don’t ever be pressured into doing or saying anything you feel uncomfortable with. Trust your instincts if you don’t feel safe and be over-cautious if you don’t feel confident.
Mental health: phone and online support
Everyone has some rough times as a teenager and a young adult, and if you’re questioning your sexual or gender identity, you might find this time of your life even tougher.
Self-harming or suicide may seem like ways of dealing with feelings or situation that are painful or overwhelming. If you are having thoughts of hurting yourself, it’s really important that you look for help and talk to somebody about it.
Emergency help for crisis situations
Auckland mental health crisis services
Central Auckland – 0800 800 717
West Swanson, Piha & Titirangi – (09) 822 8500
Henderson – (09) 822 8600
North Shore / East Rodney – ask for the CATT team North – (09) 486 1491
South Auckland – (09) 270 4742
Wellington mental health crisis services
Wellington, Kapiti Coast, Porirua City,Wellington City, Upper Hutt, Lower Hutt region – (04) 494 9169
Anywhere else in New Zealand: dial 111
Phone and online support & counseling
Phone counseling for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, curious or questioning individuals
10am – 10pm
Phone (09) 303 3584 or Freephone 0800 OUTLINE (0800 688 5463)
11am – 11pm daily
Phone (09) 376-6633 or Freephone 0800 37 66 33
Text 027 4 YOUTHS
Face-to-face counselling is also available. Contact the Youthline office on (09) 376-6645 9am – 5pm Monday to Friday to make an appointment.
24-hour phone counselling
Phone (09) 522 2999
Chinese Lifeline 0800 888 880
Free, telephone counselling service for New Zealanders aged 5 to 18 years
12pm-12am (noon to midnight) 7 days week
Phone 0800 942 8787
The Low Down
Alcohol Drug HelpLine – He kai a te rangatira he korero
Information and support with any problem, issue or query you have about your own or someone else’s drinking or drug taking.
10am – 10pm everyday
Phone 0800 787 797